Congratulations on your engagement!  We look forward to sharing our pre-marriage process with you and your fiancé as you prepare for this Holy Sacrament/

*At least one of you must be a registered member of the parish.  Please contact Fr. Gary Mayer at least six months in advance.  Below are the marriage preparation steps at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton:

• Initial Meeting with Fr. Gary: Fr. Gary will meet with you initially regarding your  freedom to marry and then sets the wedding date with you as a couple. For more information, please contact Fr. Gary Mayer at 319-393-3778 or gmayer@seasp.org 

• Prepare/Enrich Inventory: After the initial meeting with Fr. Gary, you will each receive an email from Prepare-Enrich, marriage preparation inventory site.  Check your SPAM if you don't receive this or contact Trish Lokmer with any questions about the inventory.  Please plan to take this online inventory, seperately, within 2 weeks of receiving the email link.  Once you have takent the inventory, Trish will get the results.  You are then ready to head to the next step!   

• Find a Mentor Couple:  
  • We have couples available from the parish that are interested in assisting you on your faith journey as well as your engagement and married life.  However, you may know a couple from the parish already.  The requirements for mentor couples are:
    • Married at least 5 years.
    • Attends St. Elizabeth Ann Seton or nearby parish.
    • Has a marriage you both admire.
    • Active in the church.
    • This should e a couple who inspires you, challenges you and that you both feel comfortable working with throughout the process.
  • Please let Trish Lokmer know who you would like to ask to be your mentor couple, or if you need help finding a mentor couple.  Once you have a mentor couple an initial meeting will be set  so that you can meet with Trish Lokmer and the mentor couple.  A detailed explanation of the remainder of your preparation will be discussed as well as the results of the inventory you took.
  • ​​​Engaged Couple Retreat:  Each couple is asked to register and attend a PRE-CANA EVENT through the Archdiocese of Dubuque prior to being married and while you are going through the marriage preparation materials with your mentor couple.  

• Fr. Gary will meet with you at least a month prior to the wedding to do the final liturgy planning.